**WARNING!** This post deals with graphic content. It is also assumed that the reader is able to realize that this post is not excusing or defending the convicted rapists’ actions in any way, shape or form, but instead examines our culture’s role in sowing the seeds for this kind of behavior.
Steubenville High School football players found guilty of raping 16-year-old girl – Yahoo Sports 3/17/13
Steubenville teens treated girl ‘like a toy,’ prosecutor says – CNN 3/13/13
Rape in Steubenville and Delhi: Where is the difference? – Los Angeles Daily News
By now, most people have seen or heard about the trial where two teenagers were convicted of raping a classmate and then posting videos and pictures of it online. It seems the only question left on people’s mind is how high to hang these two monsters and who else should hang with them. However, in my years of writing, I’ve learned two things: 1. Be wary of joining mobs and instead check the facts and 2. Remember the L.A.A.A.W (Liberals Are Almost Always Wrong).
Never have I seen a rape case where both the rapists and the rapee can all still be virgins AFTER the rape. It bothers me that the media blasts headlines and write stories that make most people think two privileged teens in a backwards town held a girl down screaming as the mercilessly had sexual intercourse with her against her will.
So what actually happened? Here are the facts in brief:
- In a series of back-to-school parties, a 16-year-old girl and two boys, aged 16 and 17, were illegally drinking large amounts of alcohol with their classmates. The legal age of drinking is 21.
- Despite her friend’s efforts, the girl refused to stop drinking and got mad and hit her friend when she tried to stop her from leaving the party with one of the boys, whom she had been cozying up to that evening.
- The girl threw up at one point, was driven to a house while unconscious, where she was fingered by the two boys who were also drunk, then was stripped naked and taken pictures of.
- The girl later woke up naked, had no memory of what happened but found out a few days later when videos and pictures were spread online.
There is no question that I, a traditional conservative, thinks this is horrible. My question to the rest of society is: what in the world do you expect?
We live in a society where schools start passing out free condoms to 12-year-olds. Our nation’s leading sex educator, Planned Parenthood, teaches 14 year olds about proper “fisting” techniques, (how to insert your whole hand/arm into someone’s vagina or anus) and passes out fisting kits. This is a country that so looks down on abstaining from sex that we’re kicking abstinence programs out of our schools and replacing them with programs that teaches 11+ year olds about various sex positions, mutual masturbation and the safety of anal sex. Celebrities who proudly state they are waiting to have sex until marriage are widely ridiculed and mocked, with contests to see who can make them break their promise first.
Does anyone have any doubt that sex was on the boy’s mind after he left the party with the girl? It’s not like they invented the formula of having a party, drink alcohol and then get laid. This has been consistently glorified in popular movies such as the Road Trip, Superbad, American Pie, Knocked Up, Project X, Spring Breakers and practically anything with National Lampoon in the title.
Why are people so surprised that these two Steubenville boys acted like they thought sex is supposed to come after drinking? It’s not like they don’t know TV consistently celebrates drunken sex on shows like Family Guy, Weeds, The Bachelor, Jersey Shore, Two and a Half Men, The Real World, Friends, Skins, Gossip Girl, Grey’s Anatomy, Girls, True Blood, Don’t Trust the B— in Apt. 23 and How I Met Your Mother?
It is no secret that society has for a long time been teaching teens to be “comfortable with their sexuality”. The boys probably thought that having sex with someone who was in a drunken stupor was stepping over the line and so they fingered her instead. After all, every teenager since the Sexual Revolution knows if you think sex and hooking up is a big deal, you’re just a close-minded, prudish fuddy-duddy.
Although Christians and conservatives have predicted for years that this devaluing of sex will cause young people to naturally treat it more casually and erode their moral values, who cares? As TV shows like Glee and Good Christian Bitches love to portray, Christians are all crazy and hypocrites anyway.
The sad thing is, if these two boys had shot her instead of molested her, society would have ignored them and instead be all up in arms crying out for the need for more gun control. So why is this different? Why is there is a need to demonize these boys and compare them to the monsters who so savagely gang raped a young female student on a bus in Delhi that she died of her injuries 13 days later? After all, the media knows when it puts “rape” in a headline, everyone think of scenes like in the AMC’s show Bates Motel, where a strange man enters the house and beats the mom, bends her over the table and proceeds to rape her (by the way, this show is rated acceptable for 14 year olds).
Maybe there is a need to demonize these Steubenville boys because no one wants to admit that instead of being monsters, this might be just the natural result of our free sex culture. Even the most vocal critics admit that nothing would have happened and no one would have cared if these boys hadn’t posted pictures and videos online. As for the witnesses, maybe they didn’t feel the need to call the police because they knew that if the girl had only had a little less to drink, she might have decided to go all the way and actually have sex, with every feminist in the country loudly defending her right to do whatever she wanted with her body. How do we expect teenagers to make good sexual decisions when they are legally mentally incapable to consent to sex in the first place and yet are encouraged by our culture to do so with popular songs with choruses like “Please excuse me, I don’t mean to be rude but tonight I’m fucking you” (Tonight by Enrique Iglesias).
Maybe society needs to pretend this is an isolated incident because nothing is worse than admitting that those crazy Christians might have a point when they say things like having porn freely available on any smartphone or computer might cause kids not to think twice before posting naked pictures of themselves or others online.
In the end, it is extremely sad that the only lesson teens will probably take away from the Steubenville rape case is not to talk about it so freely online. After all, how could they possibly think what they did was that bad when they are being told every day the exact opposite?